I’m privileged to share a second guest post from the lovely Briannan Dean. Briannan’s first article was all about the benefits of cacao and a delicious and super-quick recipe! Read it here.
Back to self-love…Over to you, Briannan…
The Pursuit of Self-Love: Loving the Skin You’re In
It seems that in this day and age of glossy magazine perfection and technological disconnect, self love is a concept almost as abstract as the idea of the perfect soul mate. We’re all familiar with these ideas of love, but they seem far fetched and unattainable to the average person. We think self-love is something that only the likes of Victoria’s Secret supermodels have, but in reality, self-love has nothing to do with external beauty. Rather, it has everything to do with the unconditional acceptance of yourself exactly as you are. It is not self-indulgent, it is self-affirming.
To be perfectly honest, I found this article a little difficult to get going – an indication that I am still not quite there yet with the whole self-love thing either.
Life teaches us to be resistant to the concept. We learn self-deprecation from an early age and fear being the tall poppy.
During my teens and 20s I struggled with emotional and dysfunctional eating, and by the time I was in my mid-20s, this developed in to bulimia. After working with a psychologist and doing a complete overhaul of my physical, mental and emotional health, I was able to heal from this. Below are my big 3 lessons from this journey.
1. Even the best intentions can lead to mistakes…and that’s okay!
My eating disorder started from a really good place. I was determined to get my health on track by losing some weight. I was really committed to my goal, and with that determination, I saw great results. Results that were so good, they were addictive. I was receiving lots of compliments, I had a new wardrobe of beautiful clothes and was finally enjoying physical activity for the first time in my life.
Intuition is the supra-logic that cuts out all the routine processes of thought and leaps straight from the problem to the answer – Robert Graves
This post is a little out of the realm of health coaching, but definitely more around the holistic side of life. I’ve been inspired to share my thoughts on intuition, as I am currently undertaking an 8 week program on Living Intuitively run by The Little Sage.
It’s been such a special time for me to go inward and find out more about myself and my purpose, and to build self-trust. I’m currently in Week 3, and I’ve already noticed a difference in the way I meditate. I’ve been on a quest to meditate for 2 years now, with varying success. But suddenly I have found it much easier to reach that relaxation state where my entire focus is inward. I feel like I am connecting with my intuition – my “true” self.
I recently had a very intense work week, which required my time and attention during lunch and after work. For that week, I didn’t have a chance to spend ANY time on Facebook, personal email, reading other people’s blogs or newsletters. I felt completely disconnected from the world that I am so passionate about. I felt like there were all these new breakthroughs about wellness, health and life, and I was missing out on them.
Do you ever feel like the entire world is being captured in your smartphone and you better make sure you keep refreshing your newsfeed so that you don’t miss anything? Hasn’t it been tagged as “FOMO” (fear of missing out)? Well, maybe the missing out is the stuff that goes on in the real world….
Today, I’m so proud to share with you guest blog post from my wonderful friend and life coach, Rachelle Hawken!
Over to you, Rachelle…
I want to talk about body love.
Guiding women to appreciating their bodies and what they are capable of is so important to me as a life coach because I have seen firsthand what happens to a woman when she makes this transition.
So many of my clients tell me that they want to lose weight or gain a certain level of fitness. They have a deep sense of insecurity or anxiety that sits with them constantly, they plan their weeks with the best intentions to exercise at 110% effort, 5 to 7 days a week and can be quite restrictive with what they choose to eat. Of course, this rarely, if ever, goes according to plan and so these beautiful women berate themselves for not achieving something that was mostly unrealistic. It’s a downward spiral as they feel more and more despondent about the thought of never being able to have the perfect body. I absolutely love my work, encouraging women to drop their negative perspectives on food, weight, exercise and appearance and transform the way they see the process.
I know exactly what it’s like because I’ve been there.