“Put your own oxygen mask before assisting others”. I’ll admit, that does sounds really cliché. We understand the theory behind this statement all too well, but as we are living out our daily life (which is usually very busy and even chaotic at times!) we find our personal wellbeing as the last thing on the to do list, or the thing that is continually postponed.
Most people think of bubble baths, massages, facials, or gym classes when they think of self-care. Yes, these activities may be relaxing or good for your health, but this isn’t what I’m talking about. What busy mums need is time and space to reconnect with themselves – who they are, what their values are, what brings them joy or even healing. Self-care activities that achieve this may be guided meditation, writing in a journal or diary, walking in nature, reading a book or just laying on the couch doing nothing. You may feel uncomfortable and even guilty when you first start these type of activities, as the time may feel unproductive. However, being busy, stressed or overwhelmed can dramatically impact our health and these type of activities will restore balance to our central nervous system, and are therefore, incredibly productive for your mind and body.
We know that self-care is important, but how can we make more time for ourselves and still be the attentive and loving mother we desire to be?
Electromagnetic Field (EMF) Radiation is a growing concern for me, and many other health professionals. I am an avid user of modern technology, so in this video I share with you the strategies and products that can reduce the harm caused by EMF radiation.
EMF is created by most electrical appliances, but the biggest concerns are from wireless technology and mobile phones, because these radiofrequencies were classified by the World Health Organisation on the 31st May 2011 as ‘possibly carcinogenic to humans’.
Since recording this video in early 2018, I have taken a few more steps to ensure our family is protected (better to be safe than sorry!):
Hardwired Internet – Bye Bye Wifi
After further research into the concerns of wifi impacting children, we have hard wired our entire house so that 2 x desktops, 1 x laptop and 1 x Roku TV are connected to the internet via ethernet. I make a point of checking websites, social media or googling on the computers rather than picking up my mobile. However, we still have the issue of 2 x iPhones and 2 x iPads requiring connection for updates etc.
For a regular refresh on the iPhones, or to connect an app to the internet, I (reluctantly) use mobile data. For the iPads, I connect to Bluetooth and tether to the iPhone and use mobile data. Bluetooth is not a perfect solution, however it is far less strong than wifi. When we have to update or back up our devices, we will turn on the wifi and limit exposure to 30 minutes. I am currently looking for cheats on how to connect our Apple devices to ethernet, although this is not simple.
If hardwiring is not an option for you, try just turning on the wifi as you need it, and remember to turn off overnight.
Reduced Mobile Phone Use
I am increasingly concerned about radiation exposure from mobile phones, so I always switch my phone on to airplane mode each night and leave the phone away from the bedroom. I have now started to leave my phone on airplane mode throughout the day, and turn on just a couple of times to check for messages. As I mentioned above, I try to use my computer rather than my mobile phone when at home, but this is a difficult habit to break. At least when I pick up my phone to google something, I see it’s on airplane mode and remember to use the computer instead.
5G Mobile Network
I personally have huge concerns regarding the safety of 5G network. In my opinion, this new technology has not been tested for long-term exposure. Imagine an infant that is exposed to 5G for it’s entire life? How do we know that he/she won’t develop cancer given that radiation has been deemed as possibly carcinogenic? There is also suggestion that 5G experiments have resulted in serious injury and even death to nearby wildlife, including birds and bees. Quite frankly, it really scares me.
If you are interested in learning more about mobile phone radiation, wifi radiation, and radiation in general, I strongly recommend checking out Nick Pineualt from The Non-Tinfoil Hat Guide to EMFs here: http://www.nontinfoilemf.com/
Following my decade long career in Human Resources, I share with you my tips for returning to work following maternity leave. In addition to the HR side of things, I discuss childcare, breastfeeding, and how you can ensure that your health and wellbeing is also taken care of as you make the transition to being a working mum.
I’d previously written about affirmations (which you can read about here) and have to say that I had struggled for years to incorporate them into my life in a meaningful way. I didn’t really understand how they worked on a neurological level, so I didn’t really commit to them long enough to see any change. But that all changed when I completed a Louise Hay online course back in 2016, and I started to see real change in my patterns of thinking.
What are affirmations?
Affirmations are positive statements that are usually set in the present tense, but describe a particular outcome or desired feeling.
How affirmations work
If you want to change yourself or the way you live your life, you need to change your beliefs about yourself and your life. To do this, you ultimately need to change the way you think.
Your brain loves efficiency, and what is faster – a highway or forging a new path? The thoughts that we think day-in, day-out, are like a highway in our brain. It’s why our thoughts of criticism, judgment and negativity come to mind so quickly and automatically whenever we come across a trigger. These repeated thoughts are so ingrained that they become a part of our belief system.
So in order to change your thoughts, you need to practice your new thoughts or your preferred way of thinking. This is how affirmations can rewire your brain and replace limiting beliefs
with new self-serving beliefs. When you start out using affirmations, you may not feel them to be true, or that you are lying to yourself, which was why I initially struggled to follow through with them. However, the key to the success of affirmations is persistence. It’s a new way of thinking so these neural pathways are uncharted territory, and you need to practice this new way of thinking in order for it to feel comfortable. The more consistently you think this way, the more you start to recognise the truth in the possibilities of your affirmations. And over time, you will start to find evidence in your daily life that supports your affirmations, and it will shift from “an ideal future state”, to “it’s possible”, to “this is true for me”.
Affirmations for Mums
I love the idea of affirmations for motherhood, because they can be something really powerful to create change, but only take a couple of minutes each day. Therefore, they are something that is relatively easy to incorporate into a busy and even chaotic schedule.
Here are some of my favourite affirmations for mums:
Labour and Childbirth
I trust nature, I trust my baby and I trust my body
My body is stronger and more capable than my mind can comprehend
I am safe, supported and loved
I surrender and birth instinctively
I allow my mind to move in harmony with my body’s wisdom
I have everything I need to birth my baby inside of me
“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
I trust myself and my maternal intuition.
I am doing the best I can with the tools I have.
There is peace and love in my home, even in the midst of chaos.
I let go of how I think today is supposed to go and accept how it imperfectly happens.
My body is always worthy of love and acceptance.
I appreciate my body.
I let go of resistance and I am at peace with myself.
I listen to my body and give my body what it needs on every level.
My body is wise and clever, and is capable of healing.
Self Love and Compassion
I am totally adequate at all times and I approve of myself.
I love, accept and appreciate myself exactly as I am, right here and right now.
My child sees me as the caring, loving and wonderful woman that I am.
I am enough.
Sources: Louise Hay, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, The Military Wife and Mom