I’d previously written about affirmations (which you can read about here
) and have to say that I had struggled for years to incorporate them into my life in a meaningful way. I didn’t really understand how they worked on a neurological level, so I didn’t really commit to them long enough to see any change. But that all changed when I completed a Louise Hay online course back in 2016, and I started to see real change in my patterns of thinking.
What are affirmations?
Affirmations are positive statements that are usually set in the present tense, but describe a particular outcome or desired feeling.
How affirmations work
If you want to change yourself or the way you live your life, you need to change your beliefs about yourself and your life. To do this, you ultimately need to change the way you think.
Your brain loves efficiency, and what is faster – a highway or forging a new path? The thoughts that we think day-in, day-out, are like a highway in our brain. It’s why our thoughts of criticism, judgment and negativity come to mind so quickly and automatically whenever we come across a trigger. These repeated thoughts are so ingrained that they become a part of our belief system.
So in order to change your thoughts, you need to practice your new thoughts or your preferred way of thinking. This is how affirmations can rewire your brain and replace limiting beliefs
with new self-serving beliefs. When you start out using affirmations, you may not feel them to be true, or that you are lying to yourself, which was why I initially struggled to follow through with them. However, the key to the success of affirmations is persistence. It’s a new way of thinking so these neural pathways are uncharted territory, and you need to practice this new way of thinking in order for it to feel comfortable. The more consistently you think this way, the more you start to recognise the truth in the possibilities of your affirmations. And over time, you will start to find evidence in your daily life that supports your affirmations, and it will shift from “an ideal future state”, to “it’s possible”, to “this is true for me”.
Affirmations for Mums
I love the idea of affirmations for motherhood, because they can be something really powerful to create change, but only take a couple of minutes each day. Therefore, they are something that is relatively easy to incorporate into a busy and even chaotic schedule.
Here are some of my favourite affirmations for mums:
Labour and Childbirth
- I trust nature, I trust my baby and I trust my body
- My body is stronger and more capable than my mind can comprehend
- I am safe, supported and loved
- I surrender and birth instinctively
- I allow my mind to move in harmony with my body’s wisdom
- I have everything I need to birth my baby inside of me
- “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
- I trust myself and my maternal intuition.
- I am doing the best I can with the tools I have.
- There is peace and love in my home, even in the midst of chaos.
- I let go of how I think today is supposed to go and accept how it imperfectly happens.
- My body is always worthy of love and acceptance.
- I appreciate my body.
- I let go of resistance and I am at peace with myself.
- I listen to my body and give my body what it needs on every level.
- My body is wise and clever, and is capable of healing.
Self Love and Compassion
- I am totally adequate at all times and I approve of myself.
- I love, accept and appreciate myself exactly as I am, right here and right now.
- My child sees me as the caring, loving and wonderful woman that I am.
- I am enough.
Sources: Louise Hay, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, The Military Wife and Mom