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5 Ways You Can Prioritise Your Wellbeing In Order To Be A Better Mum

Find the light at the end of the tunnel

“Put your own oxygen mask before assisting others”. I’ll admit, that does sounds really cliché. We understand the theory behind this statement all too well, but as we are living out our daily life (which is usually very busy and even chaotic at times!) we find our personal wellbeing as the last thing on the to do list, or the thing that is continually postponed.

Most people think of bubble baths, massages, facials, or gym classes when they think of self-care. Yes, these activities may be relaxing or good for your health, but this isn’t what I’m talking about. What busy mums need is time and space to reconnect with themselves – who they are, what their values are, what brings them joy or even healing. Self-care activities that achieve this may be guided meditation, writing in a journal or diary, walking in nature, reading a book or just laying on the couch doing nothing. You may feel uncomfortable and even guilty when you first start these type of activities, as the time may feel unproductive. However, being busy, stressed or overwhelmed can dramatically impact our health and these type of activities will restore balance to our central nervous system, and are therefore, incredibly productive for your mind and body.

We know that self-care is important, but how can we make more time for ourselves and still be the attentive and loving mother we desire to be?

Carve Out a Regular Timeslot in Your Routine

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Affirmations for Mums

I’d previously written about affirmations (which you can read about here) and have to say that I had struggled for years to incorporate them into my life in a meaningful way. I didn’t really understand how they worked on a neurological level, so I didn’t really commit to them long enough to see any change. But that all changed when I completed a Louise Hay online course back in 2016, and I started to see real change in my patterns of thinking.

What are affirmations?

Affirmations are positive statements that are usually set in the present tense, but describe a particular outcome or desired feeling.

How affirmations work

If you want to change  yourself or the way you live your life, you need to change your beliefs about yourself and your life. To do this, you ultimately need to change the way you think.

Your brain loves efficiency, and what is faster – a highway or forging a new path? The thoughts that we think day-in, day-out, are like a highway in our brain. It’s why our thoughts of criticism, judgment and negativity come to mind so quickly and automatically whenever we come across a trigger. These repeated thoughts are so ingrained that they become a part of our belief system.

So in order to change your thoughts, you need to practice your new thoughts or your preferred way of thinking. This is how affirmations can rewire your brain and replace limiting beliefs
with new self-serving beliefs. When you start out using affirmations, you may not feel them to be true, or that you are lying to yourself, which was why I initially struggled to follow through with them. However, the key to the success of affirmations is persistence. It’s a new way of thinking so these neural pathways are uncharted territory, and you need to practice this new way of thinking in order for it to feel comfortable. The more consistently you think this way, the more you start to recognise the truth in the possibilities of your affirmations. And over time, you will start to find evidence in your daily life that supports your affirmations, and it will shift from “an ideal future state”, to “it’s possible”, to “this is true for me”.

Affirmations for Mums

I love the idea of affirmations for motherhood, because they can be something really powerful to create change, but only take a couple of minutes each day. Therefore, they are something that is relatively easy to incorporate into a busy and even chaotic schedule.

Here are some of my favourite affirmations for mums:

Labour and Childbirth

  • I trust nature, I trust my baby and I trust my body
  • My body is stronger and more capable than my mind can comprehend
  • I am safe, supported and loved
  • I surrender and birth instinctively
  • I allow my mind to move in harmony with my body’s wisdom
  • I have everything I need to birth my baby inside of me


  • “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
  • I trust myself and my maternal intuition.
  • I am doing the best I can with the tools I have.
  • There is peace and love in my home, even in the midst of chaos.
  • I let go of how I think today is supposed to go and accept how it imperfectly happens.

Body Image

  • My body is always worthy of love and acceptance.
  • I appreciate my body.
  • I let go of resistance and I am at peace with myself.
  • I listen to my body and give my body what it needs on every level.
  • My body is wise and clever, and is capable of healing.

Self Love and Compassion

  • I am totally adequate at all times and I approve of myself.
  • I love, accept and appreciate myself exactly as I am, right here and right now.
  • My child sees me as the caring, loving and wonderful woman that I am.
  • I am enough.



Sources: Louise Hay, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, The Military Wife and Mom

Mum/Work/Life Balance

One of the fabulous things about living in this day and age is that, as women, we have access to many more opportunities than our mothers and grandmothers. Don’t get me wrong, I know there is still a way to go when it comes to gender equality. But (Australian) legislation now enables women to stop work to have a baby, with a bit of financial support, and gives us the security of ensuring that we have a job to return to. We can really “have it all” without having to choose do I want a career or do I want a family.

So, just like me, many mums find themselves in a situation where they are “balancing” a job, a partner, and children. Add to that extended family commitments, further education, a home business, appointments, social commitments, hobbies and possibly a desire to improve health and wellbeing.

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Mindful Eating for Mums

Mindful eating has always been a problem for me. Maybe you’re the same? There’s always too much to do and even if I stop to eat, I find myself easily distracted by something whether it’s replying to text messages, checking emails or reading a magazine.

But as a parent, I’ve entered a whole new realm of mindless eating!

What do I mean by Mindless Eating?

I spend a lot of time preparing my daughter’s meals, as I prefer to make most things from scratch with fresh ingredients. I also work part-time, have regular chiropractic appointments for both me and my daughter, and I love to commit us to fun things like bush playgroup, gymnastics and swimming lessons. Even on a “quiet day” there is still piles of housework. It means I make excuses about being too busy to stop and eat slowly and mindfully myself. I spend most of my meals standing up whilst cooking hers, or on the run, or in a hurry before I have to put her down for her nap.

I’m equally as bad with drinking tea. I love chai tea (as you can read all about here!) and I make the effort of preparing a chai at least twice a day. But do I sit down and enjoy it mindfully? Nope, I drink it while getting dressed, washing my face, dressing my daughter, prepping her snacks for the day, packing the car etc. Considering chai is one of my most favourite things, I know I’d enjoy it even more if I was able to be present with it!

Why is Mindless Eating such a problem?

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The Ultimate Stress Buster – Emotional Freedom Technique

You may have read my previous post, Stress Busters for Busy Mums, but today I wanted to specifically focus on a particular technique for stress and emotional management – Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or “tapping” as it’s commonly referred to.

Although I learned of tapping many years ago, I have only been working with it consistently in the last 6 months. The catalyst for this commitment has been through a body confidence perspective, after reading Jessica Ortner’s book “The Tapping Solution For Weightloss and Body Confidence”. The main concept behind this book is that we often make our poorest food choices when we are feeling stressed and overwhelmed. However, in this article, I want to focus on tapping for stress and overwhelm more generally.

Recently at work, I had about 4 things major issues come up in the space of about 15 minutes. My heart rate went through the roof and my stomach was in knots. I was feeing so overwhelmed that I couldn’t meaningfully take any action. I was paralysed with stress. I decided to grab my car keys and sit in my car to conduct some rounds of tapping. The impact was incredible!

Tapping is a fantastic tool that is completely free, accessible, painless and safe!

What is tapping?

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