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Loving My Post-Baby Body

As I write the title to this article, I feel an uneasy energy wash over me as loving my post-baby body is not actually something I’ve managed to achieve yet.

To give you a bit of a context, you may be aware that I have struggled with an eating disorder (you can read about that here). My weight has always been problematic for me, and still a very sensitive area. So of course when you throw pregnancy into the mix, you’ll understand why, as a new mother, I was ashamed to go out into the world the same way I used to before having a baby.

Whilst I actually managed to “slim down” during pregnancy (terrible nausea, heart burn and food aversion made it difficult to eat much), I stacked on the weight once my daughter was born. My body was in a state of stress due to emotional issues, lack of sleep and all the not-so-fun (stressful) bits that having a baby brings.

Once my daughter was about 4-5 months old, I decided it was time to focus on myself again. Rather than focusing on dieting and weight loss, I decided to focus on self-love and acceptance. Here are my suggestions on how to see your post-baby body and yourself with love: Continue reading

The Pursuit of Self-love: Loving the Skin You’re In

I’m privileged to share a second guest post from the lovely Briannan Dean.  Briannan’s first article was all about the benefits of cacao and a delicious and super-quick recipe! Read it here.

Back to self-love…Over to you, Briannan…

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The Pursuit of Self-Love: Loving the Skin You’re In

It seems that in this day and age of glossy magazine perfection and technological disconnect, self love is a concept almost as abstract as the idea of the perfect soul mate. We’re all familiar with these ideas of love, but they seem far fetched and unattainable to the average person. We think self-love is something that only the likes of Victoria’s Secret supermodels have, but in reality, self-love has nothing to do with external beauty. Rather, it has everything to do with the unconditional acceptance of yourself exactly as you are. It is not self-indulgent, it is self-affirming.

To be perfectly honest, I found this article a little difficult to get going – an indication that I am still not quite there yet with the whole self-love thing either.

Life teaches us to be resistant to the concept. We learn self-deprecation from an early age and fear being the tall poppy.

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a few words on self-esteem

love treeSELF-ESTEEM: Probably one of the more complex topics out there, but I decided to tackle it today based on my own experiences.

I’m a recovering over-achiever, perfectionist, people-pleaser. Constantly chasing the next achievement, I strived for that perfect score in order to receive positive reinforcement and validation from my peers, teachers and parents. I’m sure many of you can relate!

On top of that, I regularly sacrificed my own desires, feelings and happiness to maintain harmony, keep the peace and to be the perfect friend, daughter, student, girlfriend, wife.

I honestly believed for many many many years that this was a really good thing. To be likeable, a hard worker, intelligent girl with a heart of gold. Don’t get me wrong, these are good traits! However, when the motivation for being these things stems from desperately needing that approval and validation from others, then we have a self-esteem issue.

A self-esteem issue can rear it’s ugly head many times throughout our life and in different forms. For me, mine was always brewing in the background of my subconscious and conscious mind.  It drove nearly every decision I made around my social life, my school/uni/work life, and family life. It wasn’t long before this desire to achieve perfection in order to be accepted manifested in an eating disorder.

The eating disorder

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