As I write the title to this article, I feel an uneasy energy wash over me as loving my post-baby body is not actually something I’ve managed to achieve yet.
To give you a bit of a context, you may be aware that I have struggled with an eating disorder (you can read about that here). My weight has always been problematic for me, and still a very sensitive area. So of course when you throw pregnancy into the mix, you’ll understand why, as a new mother, I was ashamed to go out into the world the same way I used to before having a baby.
Whilst I actually managed to “slim down” during pregnancy (terrible nausea, heart burn and food aversion made it difficult to eat much), I stacked on the weight once my daughter was born. My body was in a state of stress due to emotional issues, lack of sleep and all the not-so-fun (stressful) bits that having a baby brings.
Once my daughter was about 4-5 months old, I decided it was time to focus on myself again. Rather than focusing on dieting and weight loss, I decided to focus on self-love and acceptance. Here are my suggestions on how to see your post-baby body and yourself with love: Continue reading →
Do you need to lose weight to become healthy?
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Do you need to become healthy in order to lose weight?
As you may know, I’m a huge fan on Sean Croxton from Underground Wellness. It was in his book, the Dark Side of Fat Loss that I first realised that we generally have things the wrong way around.
We think that we need to lose a few kilos in order to look healthy. But in fact, our body won’t release excess weight (on a permanent basis) until it’s actually healthy. (Read more about Sean’s take here)
Being thin doesn’t automatically make you a healthy specimen of the human race!
I’m privileged to share a second guest post from the lovely Briannan Dean. Briannan’s first article was all about the benefits of cacao and a delicious and super-quick recipe! Read it here.
Back to self-love…Over to you, Briannan…
The Pursuit of Self-Love: Loving the Skin You’re In
It seems that in this day and age of glossy magazine perfection and technological disconnect, self love is a concept almost as abstract as the idea of the perfect soul mate. We’re all familiar with these ideas of love, but they seem far fetched and unattainable to the average person. We think self-love is something that only the likes of Victoria’s Secret supermodels have, but in reality, self-love has nothing to do with external beauty. Rather, it has everything to do with the unconditional acceptance of yourself exactly as you are. It is not self-indulgent, it is self-affirming.
To be perfectly honest, I found this article a little difficult to get going – an indication that I am still not quite there yet with the whole self-love thing either.
Life teaches us to be resistant to the concept. We learn self-deprecation from an early age and fear being the tall poppy.
There’s a big difference between feeling an emotion, which is generally a passing phase that may last from a couple of minutes to a couple of days. When you struggle with a particular emotion and can’t break free, this may lead to a mood issue.
Long Term Stress
Chronic, long term stress is very detrimental to health. In fact, most modern day diseases are linked to stress in one way or another. Unlike momentary stress which is used to kick us into gear, chronic stress can lead to overreactions to small frustrations and feed emotions such as anger and sadness, and impede on our ability to “bounce back”. It may even lead to more serious conditions, such as depression or anxiety.
As I discussed in part one of my emotions series, as humans, we should expect to feel the whole gambit of emotions. Emotions are not good or bad – they just are what they are – a normal part of the human experience!
However, there are a few things that you can do to get yourself off the emotional rollercoaster so that you feel balanced and on an even keel.